Something Can Be Done About It
My wife and I just had our tenth Christmas together! It’s not a silver anniversary, a bronze anniversary, or even a carbon graphite anniversary or a lightweight high-tensile titanium anniversary, but still something I’m quite proud of. Especially since my wife & I still get mistaken for high-schoolers!
Our first Christmas as an engaged couple back in ’99 (pictured below) was a lot more like it – a biting 10 degrees out, crystal clear. No snow (unusually) but still cold enough to give you a proper red nose.
The above photo was taken in Harper’s Ferry, Virginia — an hour or so outside of Washington, D.C.
Hopefully, in the photo I’m able to produce for our upcoming 20th Christmas, we’ll look just as much like little kids as we do here.
Anniversaries are wonderful opportunities to look back over life and determine what you did that was good, and what you’ve done that you’d like to change for the future. But for things like this, I’m right now tempted to look at what went right, as my wife and I are probably about 10x better friends now than we were when that Harper’s Ferry photo was taken.
You log on to your MSN home page or Yahoo portal, and just about every day there’s a new article blathering on about how “…statistically speaking, it’s actually official that couples will lose all interest in one another by the time they’re together for 3 years, and will statistically start trying to have an affair by the time they’ve been married for 5. So, if you’re really unethical with your relationship, it’s perfectly normal!”
I just think that’s a load of BS, statistically speaking.
Communication is the single thing I’d have to say has made my marriage wonderful, and is the magic ingredient I’ve noted in just about every other couple I’ve known as well, which has stayed together through thick and thin. It’s most effusively and effectively communicated, I think, in a lecture by L. Ron Hubbard in the State of Man Congress lectures, entitled “Marriage” which I think sums it up better than anything. It’s all about communicating and having an association with your partner which is entirely bereft of “withholds” — a Scientology term for things you’ve done that you don’t want to talk about.
It may be uncomfortable sometimes, but communicating and talking about even those things that you don’t want to say has saved my marriage more times than I can count.
As such, I’m positive I have a formula that will most assuredly be producing another photo 10 years from now, and another 10 and 10 from that.